Best Practices

Guidelines for Meaningful Connection

🌟 Getting Started Right

Choose Your Connection Partner Thoughtfully

Kiva works best with someone you genuinely want to grow closer to. Consider:

  • Is there mutual desire for deeper connection?
  • Are both parties willing to be vulnerable?
  • Is this a relationship worth investing in?

💬 Communication Guidelines

Be Present

When engaging with Kiva prompts:

  • Set aside dedicated, distraction-free time
  • Silence notifications on your device
  • Be fully present with your partner

Practice Authentic Sharing

  • Share honestly, even when it feels uncomfortable
  • Use "I" statements to express your feelings
  • Avoid blame or criticism during reflections

Listen Actively

  • Read your partner's responses carefully
  • Ask clarifying questions when needed
  • Acknowledge their feelings before responding

🔒 Privacy & Safety

Protect Your Shared Space

  • Keep your account credentials private
  • Don't share screenshots of intimate conversations
  • Respect the confidentiality of what's shared

Establish Boundaries

  • Discuss comfort levels before starting sensitive topics
  • It's okay to skip prompts that feel too heavy
  • Take breaks when emotions run high

🎯 Making the Most of Features

Connection Rituals

These work best when practiced consistently. Try to:

  • Schedule regular times for rituals
  • Complete the full ritual without rushing
  • Discuss what you learned afterward

Emotional Check-ins

  • Be honest about your current state
  • Use check-ins as conversation starters
  • Track patterns over time

Shared Memory Timeline

  • Revisit past conversations to see growth
  • Celebrate milestones together
  • Use insights to guide future conversations

⚠️ What to Avoid

  • Don't use Kiva during arguments - Wait until emotions cool
  • Don't force participation - Both partners should engage willingly
  • Don't replace professional help - Kiva is not therapy
  • Don't share access - Keep your connection space private

🆘 When to Seek Additional Help

Kiva is designed to enhance healthy relationships. Consider professional support if:

  • There's ongoing conflict that doesn't improve
  • You or your partner experience abuse of any kind
  • Mental health concerns arise during conversations
  • You need guidance beyond what AI can provide

Resources: Find a therapist | Crisis helplines

📱 Technical Best Practices

  • Keep the app updated for the latest features and security
  • Enable notifications for partner responses
  • Regularly back up your shared memories
  • Use a strong, unique password for your account